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The most common mistakes men make when they search for a wife in Russia:

1. Men judge the quality of a women by their photos alone. It may be that a beautiful woman has not submitted a good photo, while others have very glamorous photos, as if they were taken from a fashion magazine. 20 percent of the women receive 80 percent of the letters, and so a man will have a much better chance for success if he takes into consideration the women in the 80 percent category.

Men do not pay attention to psychological test. But compatibility is essential to their future happiness. They will live with a woman, not with her pictures. They will be unhappy if they have a beautiful wife that does not share their energy, core values, etc...

Quite recently I talked with a man from Spain, he was complaining about several Russian ladies he had gotten acquainted with on the Internet. They were completely breathtaking in their pictures, but when he met them, they were quite plain looking, not extraordinary, not the supermodels he was expecting.

But while walking along the streets of St-Petersburg he saw many beautiful Russian girls walking along the streets, they were not in hurry, but were talking with their friends, and laughing a lot. Why were the Russian ladies that he had come to meet tired and dull, instead of the happy, care-free, adventurous ladies he was hoping for? It can happen. If a girl is exhausted from her job (she is, for example, the sole provider for her child or she needs to rent an apartment, which is very expensive in Russia ) she does not look her best, and you can't imagine how much she changes after she is rested. As it happened, all the Russian girls that he met were hard working and he saw them only after a full working day (in one case after a night shift). And he saw in the street Russian girls who were on holiday or were students, on vacation or even had no work, (their boyfriends cared for them). And thus created a very dramatic difference!

2. The second mistake men make who are looking for a Russian brides goes along with the first. Many men are searching for a woman that looks like a model, they want to be the envy of all their friends. But they also want to live with a normal, warm, kind-hearted, faithful woman.

But most girls who look like models do not want a real relationship, they just want men's admiration, they want to be the center of attention. But they do not need closeness, intimacy, or warmth.

And even if there is such a paragon who combines a model's appearance with warmth and comfort. They are very rare. We have a joke about it: Two men are sitting near a fireplace. One man says looking into the fire. In my whole life I was never able to marry. - Why? - I was always searching for the perfect woman for me. - And? Didn't you find her? - No, I found her. But I was not the perfect man for her. It is a sad joke but I have met some men who were acting this way, and have found them on various sites over the last 10 years.

3. The next mistake is an inability to chose! Men just can't stop (some women are into this too).They become enamored with the journey, instead of the destination. They find someone, they meet in person and everything is going great but they continue to look, and look for new women. They are poisoned by an idea that maybe somewhere there is a woman who is better, and more interesting. They do not understand the distinction between the perfect woman and the perfect woman for them.

4. Men register to a site, but they do not wish to place a photo or they place a terrible photo. Some men are under the illusion that pictures mean nothing to women. Because it is the men who choose by pictures. Women prefer that men write something clever about their profession or their hobbies. Yes, it is good, the more you write about yourself the better, but for women a lot is determined by your pictures. They do not want men to look like models (in fact, male-models will most likely frighten them away, but they do want to see your smile, to see your eyes, to feel a sense of calmness and reliability about you. For some it is important to see you in your home. And only then will they read about your hobbies and your interests or whatever it is that you like. They are often easy victims of scammers. Scammers do not pay attention to pictures and are ready to answer or write about themselves without asking for new pictures.

5. About 50 percent of the men who register on this site prefer to sign on and then just wait for beautiful Russian girls to write to them. Guess who gets more letters, more choices and more chances to find their love, the 50 percent who are just sitting and waiting for their dream girl to write to them or the men who are actively searching themselves and who reply to the women who write to them? Yes, the second group has a much higher chance, especially if you take into account that many women do not want to take the initiative, they have a very traditional view about this and regard men as the initiators.

6. But the strategy that surprises me the most is the attitude of some men who need endless confirmation that a particular woman wants to communicate with them. They send the women a wink, receive a letter or a wink in return, then send her a postcard, receive something, then wink, wink, wink, after 6 such "signs of attention" most women begin to get tired of this and stop answering. They continue to send these signs to the women of their choice, but most Russian girls have already lost interested in them.

7. The last common mistake men make is that they want to find as many women as possible to visit in Russia and only then will they come. But in reality women who were interested, loose interest after a period of time and search for somebody else. Men continue their search in an attempt to find more ladies, but again, these ladies do not want to wait for an unknown period of time and give up because he will not tell her when he will come. It is an endless process for her.

Why do women register with the agencies? Why are they looking for a husband abroad?

The main reason Russian girls register on these sites is to have more chances to find their life partner.

1. I think it shows that a girl is really serious when she registers to several dating sites. (she can't know beforehand which site is good, and which is not). She does not just wait, but she is actively searching by every means that is available to her.

For these women it does not matter weather they marry a Russian or a Western man, they just look for love.

2. It is easy to find a boyfriend in Russia, but it is very difficult to find a husband. For many women over 30 this is a problem. They want to have a child, they also want the stability that a marriage can give, but men prefer to live together without committing to marriage. Many men do not want to have children, especially a second child. It is an expensive luxury now in Russia and the government does very little to help families with children.

3. Many Russian men are not good fathers, this is painful to women who want to share in the caring of their child, and planing their future. But men in Russia prefer to put all the care on the women's shoulders.

American men are more caring to their children and step children. Woman hope that if they marry an American he will be a good father to her child and also any children they have together.

4. Life in European and American countries is more stable and predictable than in Russia. It is not the main reason but one reason why beautiful Russian girls leave Russia. They get tired of instability and uncertainty and wish to have a life free from worrying about the future. The standard of living for the average person is lower in Russia compared with other developed countries.

5. Many women come to the agency after painful divorces. They were hurt and want to leave everything behind and start over with a clean slate. They feel that there will be a man who will love them and care for them, and who will allow them to love in return.